So we're just going to jump right on in the pool, rather than get our feet wet.
This is basically going to be me telling you stories about me, my roommate, my friends, and my family. I feel like my story needs to be told, whether anyone actually listens to me or not.
My name is going to be kept the same, but the names of those in my life are going to changed for their sake, since a good bit of this is going to be considered libelous, confrontational, and just downright mean.
I'm done playing nice with people.
It's time to let the gloves off.
Tale 1: The Girl Who Wasn't Good at Committed Relationships
My roommate Caisey* once told me that she wasn't "good at having a boyfriend." This happened a few months after she broke up with her last boyfriend, Dan (long story short, he was a lying, cheating asshole, and he left her with a myriad of trust issues that will quite possibly affect her for the rest of her life).
I thought she was full of shit.
The only people I've ever heard say they weren't "good at the relationship thing" were those slutty girls in high school who thought they could get away with screwing groups of guys--best friends, even!--at the same time behind their backs, and get away with it (they never did, by the way--especially not in my high school of 1500 students that all grew up together).
So when Caisey told me that she wasn't going to "officially" date Christian because she wasn't "good at having a boyfriend," I was immediately suspicious. I mean, if she liked Christian then why wouldn't she date him?
I had my suspicions then, and I greatly fear that they've been confirmed tonight.
At the time of our "Why not date Christian?" conversation, Caisey was also "talking" to at least two other guys. At least I only knew about two others.
It's not that Caisey is a whore. She's not. She just makes certain decisions that worry me. Maybe that's my maternal instinct kicking in a little bit, but I just don't want to see her get hurt by her actions.
Tonight, I'm struggling with the decision to mention anything to her about what she's doing to Christian.
I've suspected for some time now that she is or has before cheated on Christian with a mutual friend of ours, Geoffrey. I first got the idea when she put me in charge of her phone at a random nail appointment a month or so ago.
She and Christian had been dating about a month or so at this point.
She was getting her manicure on, and I was holding her phone for her. She got a text from Christian saying something inconsequential, and I exited out of the the conversation thing, and I saw something that made me really concerned:
Geoffrey Anderson
"Do you want to have sex?"
This one question made my blood run cold. Why would Geoff be asking Caisey this? Had they had sex before? Were they hooking up? How many times had they had sex?
Oh my God.
Was Caisey cheating on Christian?!
The text was dated from 12 December.
Caisey and Christian started dating on 20 November.
What. The. Fuck?
What was Caisey thinking?! Christian absolutely adored her! He always told her how much he liked and appreciated her. He would tell her he loved her almost daily--sometimes several times an hour.
Why would she do this?
I didn't say anything to Caisey about it then. Later that night I just ended up fabricating some cock and bull story about some people I went to high school with, and how this girl was cheating on her boyfriend of three years with some guy they were both friends with, and how I just couldn't believe she would do something like, since cheaters were the absolute worst thing in relationships, because it ruins trust and it makes people do horrible things to the people that they supposedly care about.
Caisey agreed, saying that she learned her lesson back a few years ago when she cheated on an old boyfriend, and how her entirely fucked up relationship with Dan had taught her that cheating was basically the kiss of death for all relationships.
I convinced myself that she would never do anything to jeopardize her relationship with Christian, and we moved on from that topic and went about our business.
Now, let's jump back to the present day.
Caisey was in the shower. I was folding up the rest of my laundry and putting it away when her phone buzzed a couple times. I try not to snoop through her messages, but I'm single--I'm living vicariously through Caisey's relationship with Christian--so I just went to see what Christian had said (I always assume it's Christian now).
Only it wasn't Christian.
It was Geoffrey.
Geoffrey Anderson
"We had sex again."
Um, excuse me?!
I had to be misinterpreting this. It wasn't real. I wasn't really seeing the evidence of her cheating. I just couldn't be.
So, I admit, I snooped.
And I kind of wish I hadn't.
I scrolled back through her messages and I saw that she and Geoffrey have been carrying on an emotional-texting flirtation for the entirety of her relationship with Christian.
I saw that Caisey told Geoffrey, "I have a boyfriend, but I still really like you."
It turns out that "We had sex again" message was just Geoff describing his dream last night to Caisey.
That doesn't make this okay, though. It doesn't excuse Caisey from anything.
What it does mean is this:
Caisey had sex with Geoffrey after she and Christian starting dating exclusively.
Caisey has continued to cheat emotionally with Geoffrey.
Caisey hasn't learned anything about trust or relationships or about cheating in relationships.
It means she's a liar.
And I don't really know what to do with this information.
I saw the evidence of her cheating on her phone.
I saw that she's conflicted, yes, but it still doesn't excuse the fact that she's cheating on her boyfriend, who is absolutely head over heels for her!
I don't think I'm going to bring this up to her. I'm just going to let her destroy the one, good, loving relationship she's had in her lifetime; and when it all blows up in her face, and she's left crying and whining about all that went wrong, I'm not going to offer her any comfort whatsoever.
Because she won't deserve it.
At all.
Does that make me callous? I don't think so. I think it makes me realistic.
She has to learn that cheating is NOT OKAY.
And until she understands that it doesn't just affect her, she's never going to change.
And I have too much to worry about with school to be keeping track of her affairs (pun extremely intended).
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